Scripture Guide

Family

THIS WEEK’S SCRIPTURE:

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother’—which is the first commandment with a promise—‘so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.’ Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”Ephesians 6:1–4 (NIV)

Family is formative. For most people, the first place we learned about love, authority, conflict, forgiveness, responsibility, joy, pain, and belonging was our family. We spend the first part of our lives being shaped by our households, and then, if we’re honest, we spend a lot of our lives processing what was formed in us there.

That’s why all throughout its pages, the Word of God speaks directly to the family. Because the home is meant to be the primary place where hearts are shaped and discipleship happens… not the only place, but the primary place. Before a child sits in a classroom, joins a small group, attends a church service, or hears a sermon, they’re already being formed by the rhythms, conversations, priorities, habits, and relationships in their home.

Deuteronomy 6 gives us this picture clearly. God’s command here wasn’t for the temple; it was for the home. The truth of who God is, what He’s done, His purposes, His plans, His Word, and His will are to be impressed on the next generation and talked about in the everyday flow of life: sitting at home, walking along the road, lying down, and getting up. In other words, discipleship was never meant to be reduced to a church program. It’s meant to be woven into the very fabric of family life.

But here’s the thing: that kind of family dynamic requires intentionality. That’s why, before entering the Promised Land, Joshua called the people of Israel to choose who they would worship, who they would follow, and what kind of people they would become. And he says, “But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”

Friends, that statement is a declaration of spiritual direction. It doesn’t mean you’ll do everything perfectly or always have it all together. It simply means that your family’s desire will be to keep Jesus at the center.

But, the truth is not every family looks like this. For some, family is a place of love, safety, and encouragement. For others, it’s complicated. Maybe your home has been marked by conflict, distance, divorce, loss, addiction, abuse, or disappointment. Maybe the word “family” brings up more pain than joy. And if that’s your story, Scripture doesn’t ask you to pretend it didn’t hurt or act like everything was okay.

But it does remind us that Jesus meets us in the broken places and brings us into the family of God with brothers and sisters and spiritual parents. 

So whether you’re part of a healthy family, trying to repair a strained one, grieving what you didn’t receive, raising children, caring for aging parents, honoring parents from a distance, or learning how to be a spiritual mother or father to someone else, the invitation is the same: let Jesus form you. Choose this day to serve the Lord in whatever family you find yourself.

Read this week’s Scripture in addition to these supporting Scriptures: Deuteronomy 6:6–7; Matthew 12:48–50; Luke 2:51–52; Joshua 24:15; Psalm 68:5–6, 1 Timothy 4:12

Study Questions:

  1. What does Ephesians 6:1–4 teach children and parents about God’s design for the family?
  2. Why do you think Paul connects obedience and honor with what is “right” before the Lord?
  3. What does it look like for parents to bring children up in the “training and instruction of the Lord” without exasperating them?
  4. How does Matthew 12:48–50 expand our understanding of family through Jesus and the family of God?
  5. How can every member of a family—parents, children, grandparents, siblings, or even spiritual family—help point one another to Jesus, regardless of their role or age?

Meditate on this week’s passage and ask yourself these questions.

  • What stuck out to me through this passage?
  • What’s God showing me?
  • What truth can I take with me into today?

God’s Word invites transformation. Today’s about putting what you’ve learned into practice.

  • Based on what I just learned about God, what habits, attitudes, or changes do I need to make?
  • What can I take away from this passage and apply to my life?
  • Where is Jesus inviting me to practice honor, patience, forgiveness, or spiritual leadership within my family?

Application Challenge: 

This week, take one step toward strengthening or repairing a family relationship. That may mean apologizing without defending yourself, forgiving without keeping score, encouraging a parent, blessing a child, checking in on a sibling, serving an aging family member, or inviting someone into the family of God through prayer, conversation, or church community.

Scripture to Pray: 

Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve… But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”—Joshua 24:15

Guided Prayer:

Father, thank You for creating us for relationship and placing us in families, both earthly and spiritual. We confess that family can be one of the greatest places of joy and one of the deepest places of pain. Teach us to bring both before You honestly. Make our homes places where You are remembered, talked about, worshiped, and followed. Form us into people who love like You love. Make us faithful in the ordinary moments, not just the public ones. Let our families become places where Your grace is seen, Your truth is practiced, and You are honored. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

Looking back on this week’s Scripture, remember that family is a place of formation, and Jesus invites us to make Him the center of how we honor, forgive, disciple, and love one another.

  • What is one way I can enjoy God’s presence through rest, relationship, or serving others?
  • What blessings can I thank God for as I reflect on this week?

This weekend, set aside intentional time to go to church, do something you love with Jesus, and connect with others.

Group Discussion Guide:

Pick your favorites to discuss with your group, family, or friends.

  1. How has your family shaped the way you understand love, authority, conflict, or forgiveness?
  2. Why do you think the home is such an important place for spiritual formation?
  3. What’s the difference between a “perfect family” and a Christ-centered family?
  4. Where do you see the temptation in families to avoid conflict instead of seeking to reconcile and restore what’s broken?
  5. How does Jesus expanding the definition of family in Matthew 12 encourage people with painful or complicated family stories?
  6. What is one practical way you can help make your family, household, or church community more centered on Jesus this week?